Court went great! It was the most nerve racking thing I think I've ever done. It was about an hour of questions. The questions wasn't the most nerve racking part it was the fact that we had a 2 year old to try to keep quiet and on her best behavior for an hour. Thankfully she did quite well. We gave her a page of stickers and a bottle of milk and only had to tell her to be quite a few times. Thank you all for your prayers!
The social worker was there, as well as the head nurse, and Yulia (our translator.) There was also a man sitting across the room, another lady sitting over by us, and 3 additional people with the judge. Not sure what everyone's role in everything was exactly but the social worker, nurse and one other lady had to stand up and say that they agreed to us adopting Mina.
The judge was worried about us being so young and what if we have other children of our own~ will the adopted child be loved as much or receive less attention. She said that Mina is so young that she probably doesn't no or understand to make such a big trip and enter a new world and doesn't know if that would be best for her. She said she hopes we won't regret our decision.... which of course we know we won't. She asked if our families are supportive and would be helpful and loving towards Mina.
The nurse from the orphanage explained to the judge that she thinks Mina will really benefit from being apart of our family and that Mina has been doing much better since we got here and have been spending time with her. She said that Mina smiles and reaches for us when she sees us and she does recognize us and that Myla is very good with her and always shares her toys with her. She also told the judge that Mina entered the orphanage in June 2009 and that she has not even been visited once since. She explained that she has been in the orphanage for over a year and that no family members, grandparents, relatives of any kind or any ukranian citizens have come to even see Mina at all since she has been there. That brought tears to my eyes cause it is so hard for me to imagine that. I just know that if anything ever happened with anyone in our family we would be there loving, visiting, caring for that child and it's so hard to think that she has been completely left with no one even caring to ever visit her. I know it's expected and typical for these children it just makes me so sad to think about it. I can not imagine how hard that must be to have loved and cared for your child for 6 months and then no longer see them, or know at all how they are even doing.
Mina has 2 brothers... which the judge asked us if we would mind if the brothers down the road ever wanted to get in contact with Mina. Of course we wouldn't mind... that would be wonderful and we would be very supportive and encouraging of that. If Mina ever wants to learn more about her birth parents, brothers, or other family we would do everything we could to help her find them and meet them. I'm hoping we will be able to get enough information or possibly going to see if we can get her parents names so that when she gets older she will have that information if she ever is interested in finding them.
So at the end of court and the many questions and concerns the judge granted us as parents to Mina. Of course Mina is not her real name it is actually Margarita but her new name on her birth certificate will now be:
Mina is her name given by RR so that is what we have known her as and called her since day one, and we think it goes perfectly with her sister Myla's name. Actually it is pretty funny because when we were looking through some dossier documents that were translated into Ukrainian Myla actually was spelled and looked like Mina.
The middle name we went back and forth on a lot. I am really big into name meanings and wanted to give her a name that has an awesome meaning. Mina means love so that helped make her first name be a keeper :) Out of all of the names we mentioned Bella stuck most with Myla. She started walking around calling her Mina Bella and I absolutely love the meaning of the name Bella. It has amazing meanings in several different origins:
- Origin: French Means: Beautiful
- Origin: Hebrew Means: Devoted to God
- Origin: Hungarian Means: Intelligent
- Origin: Latin Means: Yeilding to prayer. Beautiful, loving, lovable, graceful
- Origin: Spanish Means: Beautiful, Devoted to God
So there you have it Court went great, we are officially Mina's parents and now just have to wait out this 10 day wait period. It will actually be a 14 day wait period unfortunately which I am a little disappointed about but glad that court is at least over. Our 10th day falls on Friday so on the 11th day is when you can go to get the birth certificate. Unfortunately since that is on Saturday the office is closed on Sat, Sun, and Mon and then Tues (the 24th) is there Independence day holiday so the office will be closed then as well. So now our 10 day wait has turned into a 14 day wait because we won't be able to go get her new birth certificate until the 25th of August. Once we have her birth certificate we can go get her out of the orphanage and we will take her to get her passport picture taken and send off passport paperwork. That usually takes 4-5 days and then we will leave for Kiev. Once in Kiev we will be there approx 2 days to go to the US Embassy and take care of paperwork and take her to have a medical exam done so that we can head back home. It is looking like we will probably be flying home August 1st or 2nd which is sooner than we thought so that is still exciting. To bad that 10th day fell over the weekend we'd prob be leaving 4 days earlier then that. We asked if there was anyway they could do the birth certificate on the Friday before the weekend and she said absolutely not because it is counted as the 10th day and you have to wait till the 11th.
Missed seeing Mina this morning. The other family there said that she was laying down when they went to pick up there kiddos for visit and that she was ready and waiting for us. Makes me so sad. Of course we had no way to tell the orphanage we wouldn't be there that we had court this morning but we will get to go see her this afternoon. Looking forward to that!!! Will post some new pics of her as our official child this everning :)